So many Boomers and Gen x-er’s are searching for meaning in their work life and yet, so many Millennials find work meaningless. Becoming a professional mentor for young adults is a great way to do that and also really help this amazing Millennial generation reach their potential. I believe that these young adults have what it takes to change this world for the better in every way. It is our generation who have let them down and then accused them of being self-centered, slackers who sleep and slave away on their superciliously synced smart phones. (I’m in an “s” mood today ☺)

While there is so much good to be had in mentoring young adults, there are two sides to even that coin. With all good things there is yang to the yin, the blessing and the curses (B’s and C’s) that one could never have imagined when starting upon this journey. Having been a mentor for young adults for over 16 years, I thought sharing my experiences on the B’s and C’s of this would probably work... but first….

Here are some thoughts from one of my newest Mentors In Training, Sean, about what he was seeking in becoming a mentor for young adults

“Hey Ken! I really am looking for a change in my life. Call it turning 50,. or a mid-life crisis. Call it being fed up with not feeling like I do something worthwhile for human-kind. Hell, call it a person being fed up with their corporate job.
I want to feel like I make a difference. Like I've helped someone. Leave a mark ... even if it's only in a small way.
All this being said ... I still have four mouths to feed, a mortgage, car payment and three kids to hopefully put through university. And currently I make a good living doing what I do (even if it is from behind a cubicle wall) So making a change is scary. Naturally.

No doubt you are a charismatic, well-spoken, polished individual that seemingly loves what he does and teaches. Can I take some of what you have and make it work for me?”

The answer: Yes! The people who have become professional Mentors were able to take what they were taught and make it their own. They do it part-time in the first year after training so they can slowly transition into a successful mentoring practice to either augment their current income or create a full time Mentoring career.

The B’s and C’s of Becoming a Mentor.

Top 5 blessings of being a mentor for young adults:

5. It’s all done on Skype, so your pits and mouth can be stinky and you’ll still seem like you know what you are talking about. (but take pity on your dog’s olfactory receptors)
4. No traffic jams! No travel time to work! Just get your computer on, fire up Skype and Robert’s your father’s brother.
3. Imagine! Millennials sharing their thoughts; completely and totally honestly, thanks to the judgment-free environment you create.
2. You learn the coolest things about what’s happening in the connected world; people; songs; apps. Hey, I heard “Badger, badger, badger, badger” way before my any of my friends did... if they ever did.
1. After being with you as their Mentor for six to eighteen months, they graduate and know how to deal with anything life will throw at them with grace, wisdom and unflinching eyes on the prize.

Top 5 Curses of Being a Mentor for Young Adults:

5. As a result of being on Skype all the time, with no clients to sneeze or pass gas in your general direction, you are more susceptible to the various colds and flus when you do venture out. (Who knew those kids sneezing
on the teacher in class were doing them a favor?)
4. The internet service providers of the world seem to have it out for Skypers. It can be frustrating sometimes… frozen images… missed words occurring most often when you absolutely need to hear every word your client is sharing.
3. Imagine! Millennials sharing their thoughts; completely and totally honestly, thanks to the judgment-free environment you create. (This is a blessing and a curse.)
2. Try explaining Badger to your “grown-up” friends or why (name of funky group) really is cool. (sigh… caught between two generations).

The Kicker: 

1. After being with you for six to eighteen months, they graduate. You are sort of Mary Poppins for f**ked up kids. You heard them. They listened and then they must leave the Skype-nest. It is a sad time and a happy time.

This is what I live for in every hour that I mentor young adults and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Finally, I would like to emphasize, that it is such an honor to earn their trust and help guide them to their inner greatness. Helping the families go from major daily scream-fests to the truly loving relationships they were meant to have is simply icing on the cake.

In conclusion: surrender to your special skills of sharing the secrets of success to Millennials and start your sojourn from a snooze-fest existence to inspiring slackers.

Join us!

Learn to Mentor Millennials.
They are our greatest hope.
We need them.
They need you.

Interested in mentoring Millennials? Check out www.MentorsProfessionalWorkshop.com

Know a Millennial in need of mentoring? Check out www.MentoringYoungAdults.com

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My goal is to train people who love mentoring young adults and give them the tools to become a Professional Mentor.

What's the difference? It takes a special person to take on the challenge of mentoring young adults but it takes a system to create a whole life approach to helping young adults and their families truly succeed on all levels: 
Scholastically, Relationally, Emotionally and with a true belief in oneself.

This is what the World Wide Youth Mentoring (WWYM) Inc system does.
This is the system I have created over the past 20+ years.

In my work mentoring young adults, I have worked with countless young people who have made great changes for the better in their lives. Changes where they were responsible for the successful outcome. These successes are now part of who they are and how the see themselves and shall help guide them in whatever endeavors they take on in life. Mentoring young adults become something that empowered not only those I helped but myself as well.

The goal of this Workbook is to help you become such a mentor to young adults.

If you follow this process (in tandem with my book: The Slacker’s Guide To Success) you will find yourself helping young people to find their personal greatness. I cannot think of a nobler task or one that I consider to be more honourable to be part of.

Most systems of “repairing young adults” that I encounter seem to be focused on the symptoms.

They use their challenges to define the whole of the person. Statements such as: “I’m ADHD”. Hello, my name is Skeeter and I’m an alcoholic” "I can't do that, I have been diagnosed with anxiety". “I’m such a (fill in the blank)” ring throughout the land.

To those who spend so much time on their symptoms, I would suggest you think of the following: We amplify what we focus on, in word, thought and action. The more frequently we are defining ourselves by what we lack, the more we allow our inner thoughts to validate our beliefs in our million micro-decisions of the day.

We cannot underestimate the amount of people who are in denial about their personal foibles.

I am not suggesting self-delusion as the road to success. I encourage you to (and by extension the young adults you mentor) to “own” their challenges as well as their strengths, but please do not let these young adults be defined by their challenges.

Let me share with you my belief, my mindset and my intention for mentoring based on my Mentoring of Young Adults since 2001:

Every young person I have ever met has the ability to be successful in every way of their lives. That may seem like a bold statement but the truth is, evolutionarily speaking, if you are alive, then you are doing something right. You must also come from a line of people who were able to thrive. The DNA of success is built into you. It just may present itself in a way that doesn’t fit into a standard mold. What may seem like the opposite of success may simply be indicators to look for a different way, to find your own personal way to succeed. For many generations mentoring young adults was a right of passage but what way can one use now?

The Slacker’s Guide to Success is one such way.

It works by building up a person’s belief in themselves in quiet daily tasks that help build character. It is in the small daily tasks one does away from public view that we build up our own faith in ourselves and it is these same small tasks that have been taken away from this generation.

Shining shoes? – Velcro!
Tying your shoe laces – More Velcro!
Cutting the lawn? – no more lawns – robot lawn mowers – or paid help.
Washing the dishes? Dishwashers!
Vacuuming – Roomba!
Getting the mail (what’s mail? Oh! That stuff before texting!)
Spelling (duh … spellcheck!)
Multiplication tables (do calculators have those?)
Walking the dog (did kids ever really walk the dog?)
Homework (isn’t that what tutors are for?)

I won’t go on. It’s too depressing. 🙁

What daily tasks will inspire young people to learn self-discipline, build character and belief in oneself?

Since the “old ones” are gone. They need to be replaced with new ones. (Not that new):
1: Self-reflection.
2. Exercise.
3. Creativity
4. Generativity.

I will elaborate on these in chapter one.

Although I say that each person has the potential for success and that I have found my system to be highly effective, it does not mean that I work with every person who comes to interview with me or that they all stay the course and succeed using the World Wide Youth Mentoring system.

When parents seek my help for a troubled teen or young adult, they often find me through one of my articles at Huffington Post, or from our sister website for Mentoring Young Adults.

Once we have determined that this system could be a good fit for a potential client (ages 12 to 28) we then begin the first 8 sessions which will determine if the program truly works for the new client. If you are trained in our system, you will eventually reach my success ration, of those I accept on the sixth session of 95%!

What does this mean for the young adults?

It means that each one has in them the seeds for success and the challenge is to find the proper system for that particular person. Often, when someone I have worked with has risen above their addictions and gone back to school and succeeded well (very often for the first time) I will get referrals from friends. The chance of my particular system being right for that friend at that particular time is 50/50. The determining factor is; is this person ready?

Now, let’s talk about you. What you need to bring to this system and how you can determine when your “client” is ready for your mentoring.

Who knows your child better than their parents? They do. They may not know it or share all of it with them but a parent's understanding of their child is based on history. More than likely, theirs is about right now and tomorrow. The past is often the same place where broken toys reside. Rich and meaningful at one time, but now it is mainly of use for stubbing toes and tripping us up.

It is in the future and the now that we must begin the Hero's Journey of Success with our clients. This is how we being mentoring young adults.

Stay tuned for part two!

Are you interested in Professionally Mentoring Young Adults? Check out our home page on mentoring young adults by clicking here.

Know someone in need being professionally mentored? click here for our sister site. 

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What is a “Mentor”?
Mentor was a character in the Homer’s mythic poem the Odyssey. Mentor, the son of Heracles and Asopis, was a friend of Odysseus who put Mentor charge of his son Telemachus. Later on Athena visited Telemachus disguised as Mentor and helped encourage him to go on his hero’s quest. So, the father had sent for Mentor to help Telemachus and Athena acted as Mentor, both to help the young man find himself.

As Mentors, we take on the task set out by Odysseus, the parent, to guide, help and encourage our Telemachus, our mentee, towards their hero’s journey.

To this end, I have created a Mentor’s Credo: The values that will guide our process of mentoring.

1. Mentors serve the client/protégé/Telemachus/mentee
2. Never leave a stumbling block before the blind
3. A truth told before its time is worse than a lie
4. A Mentors goal is to witness the Telemachus’ greatness and guide them on their path towards it.
5. The only gifts of value are those earned
6. Earned gifts are equal whether they are small or great
7. When in doubt, honor the small gifts earned
8. Be humble
9. Enter the Telemachus’ world as a curious bystander
10. You are not their friend. You are their Mentor
11. Mentoring is best done at a distance.
You have succeeded when they leave.

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It is in the future and the present that one must be re-introduced to one's children. They are new people at every stage of development yet we still see them on the potty. The generation we don't seem to understand is truly... the internet generation.

How do we learn to see them anew and more importantly; how does the Internet Generation learn to see themselves through new eyes?

The ideal way is through a Professional Mentor who sees them for who they are now and who they could become, free of judgment and free of external limitations. That is the key to Mentoring Teens and Young Adults towards success.

To find that successful future, we must first look at what makes inhabitants of the Internet (a land I call WebFredonia) different.

People born before 1980 are not born of the land of the Internet. We are first or second generation CyberDonian immigrants. Those born of the Internet world are wired differently.

We should begin by asking ourselves: “Are they really different?” Didn’t every generation talk about how much better they were to their elders then the present generation and is it not a time-honored complaint?

It is the eternal complaint about each generation.

Having said that, there are reasons why the Internet Generations (IG) are truly different than most of those that preceded them. I say most because the Internet Generation has some common links with the generations that fought in the two “great wars”, as well as a few very big differences.

Those two great generations saw their entire world change in the span of a few short years. All the things they knew for certain, all the truths they took as being the way of the world were changed forever. You really couldn’t keep ‘em down on the farm after that.

Like those two generations, today’s generation of teens and young adults experience world-shaking changes on a regular basis in everything they know:

how they consume their music, from physical cd’s to proprietary mp3’s on their computer to the cloud;

How they communicate; from home phones, to cell phones, to emails, to texting, to face-booking;

How the world works – many “indispensable” jobs of middle and upper middle management will soon be gone. They will join the rapidly disappearing industrial and transportation jobs. Thanks to the constant advances in Artificial Intelligence.

Children today are virtually accosted by people gaining instant world-wide fame for the bizarre to the infamous. How can they ever compete with these one-second stars in making their mark?

Reality television’s ravenous appetite for championing people who crave their 24 episodes of world fame at any cost seems never-ending.

How can the Internet Generations compete when every voice is modified and every picture photo-shopped to create perfection  What should they aspire to?

Perfectionism is causing many kids to not bother trying.

What benefit is there to “striking out on your own” if every desire is catered to by every means?

Better to act entitled than to try for small personal successes… and there you have it. The IG mindset.

Then there is the Internet knowledge base. The Internet Generation has these wide swaths of knowledge without depth, for the most part. This makes their ability to take one choice, when there are so many possibilities, almost impossible

So what is the future to look forward to?

The future is not in the vertical thought process, nor the linear assembly line, it is in the lateral thinking of the age of ideas.

The future belongs to this generation and it is through ideas based on their personal goals and beliefs, nourished by a daily routine of personal development that this will become the greatest generation ever.

I believe this to be true because I see it happening in the young adults I mentor. People who come to me stuck. Unable to succeed, who, with a few simple steps towards self-actualization, towards “piercing the target” to start at anything and just experience the unfolding of craft.. they take to it like a duck to water and soar.

Time to give parents of the internet generation the tools to bring back their rightful place as the shapers of this great generation: Stay tuned for part 3!

For more information about becoming a professional Mentor for Young Adults, click here.

Become a Professional Mentor for Young Adults! Check out our next opening for 1st Degree Mentorship at Ken Rabow's Mentors Professional Workshop by clicking here

Know a young adult in need of mentoring. Visit our sister site: MentoringYoungAdults.com

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And what do you think I would want to start with on the grand journey?

You!

You must lead by example. That example is not “look at me! I’m doing the same crap you are!!”. No, we lead by living it but not preaching about it. Just understanding from our own challenges how to appreciate our client’s challenges.

As mentors, our duty is to grow as human beings. To take on our own personal and creative challenges and live by the guidelines we are setting for our clients.

To that end, we must add the following things in our lives.
I have spoken before about the times I would do Reiki, Therapeutic Touch and other healing modalities to people when I lived in Montreal.

Two things become clear that will help those who wish to Mentor Young Adults towards success in all aspects of their lives.

1) No outside force heals a person. It is the person’s choices and belief system that allows for the healing.

2) You can only truly grow when you add three things into your daily routine:

Something Reflective; Something Creative and Something Physical

1. Reflective
   Meditation etc.,
   Prayer
   Success Recap
2. Creative (performance)
   coding drawing writing
   i.e. Making something
   Using your canvas
3. Physical (walking)
   Muscle based exercise – Weights; Tai Chi; resistance training; etc.,

   Here are some more things I recommend that you incorporate into your life to prepare you to become a truly great life coach for young adults:

4. Meditation exercises (live with Ken ☺)
   General 10 min Visualization
   Grounding
   Sleep/Wake routine
   Thankfulness routine
5. Take your own Mentor classes when you can.
   Ask your fellow MIT’s to switch 30 min sessions – 1 with you as Mentor (real work) – next with you as Mentee.Do real work. First time do GCS – then start a daily routine the following week – share how this goes at your next class. Write down questions.
6. Also, keep notes to ask Ken
7. Volunteer Interim Mentee – someone you will work on in your second month of mentor classes.

Choosing a VIM.
Using the VIM form to sign.
Remember: You need your police report for mentoring outside of fellow MIT’s

A Mentor is: Calm, relaxed, prepared, confident and always looking for Gold in his clients.

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You might think it was connected to new waves of terrorism and mass killings endlessly portrayed in the media but I believe that place is very minor role in this issue. The real challenge, I believe, is the amazing virtual World these young adults have created for themselves, Usually in their bedrooms.

The amount of"FaceTime" or real-time interactions that these young people have have dwindled two an embarrassing absence in their lives. I don't believe they're even aware of this until they're confronted by the seemingly impossible thought of going"Out there" into the real world.

To become a life coach for young adults with social anxiety we must find ways to help them feel safe taking one step at a time out into the world and then back again.

Let me give you an example of eliminating social anxiety:
Skeeter was someone with very low self-esteem who kept taking dead-end jobs afraid to hope for anything good. It would be a study in itself to explain how would determined he was clinically depressed and needed meds and that he needed to go to some close acquaintances who desperately needed the skills he had to help grow their business. Suffice to say it was done but his absolute fear I'm simply going to get his favorite drug(Columbian coffee) at the local groovy coffee den required some unusual work on our part.

For those who have been doing the training with me, you know that we have a daily routine. On Skeeter's daily routine was going out for 5 minutes down the street and coming back. After about several months where it never happened, I decided we would go on the walk together. Of course I am on Skype with him about 2000 miles away, so our little journey into the streets of Boulder, Colorado would be me on my screen and him having me on his headphones.

It worked! Oddly enough he would be dressed and ready to go out in subsequent sessions for our "walk". Then one time he needed to get his prescription filled and so having me in his ear helped him get past not feeling that everybody was watching/judging him. Another success. (I could never get him to drive to his favorite coffee places on his own).

Fat forward to six months later and we are going out each session to a new coffee boutique. (He is a coffee aficionado). At the last one, I said (into his ear) ask the Barista how the job is going. Is he enjoying it?

This started a whole chat and the barista threw in the espresso shot.

So we are hanging in the coffee shop while Skeeter is drinking his coffee. I am talking and he is texting me so it doesn't look to creepy to outsiders.

Ken: So, you really learned how asking people about themselves pays off and lets you feel less inspected.

Skeeter: You are so lucky that that happened on the first time.

Ken: The free espresso?

Skeeter: Mm-hmm (all being texted by him)

Ken: True but I knew it would happen eventually.

Skeeter is now getting coffee at the shops every day. (I think I created a ultra-caffeinated monster 🙂

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Today's Mentoring Moment: A happy pinball and a sore thumb.

Those of you who know me, know that I am a bit of a pinball fanatic. I say "a bit" because I know people who have added an extra garage to display a bajillion pinball machines.
I am happy with 7. If I wish to get another, I have to sell one.

Pinball is like life. You take your best shot at something (the plunger) and it may start well or it may start badly. The physics of the ball, the obstacles it encounters can all be dealt with by a stream of copiousness of "Being in the moment". Sometimes it goes right down the crapper anyways. Maybe you learn something, maybe it was just a bad ball but you keep on.

None of that has anything to do with today's mentoring moment, I just wanted to share that with you 🙂

Mentoring Moment of the day. I recently bought the sweetest pinball with one of the ugliest looking backglasses (the thing the lights up at the back of machine with the scores on it) called World Poker Tour. Turns out, you can buy new artwork from the place in the Netherlands. There are tasteful images, Playboy quality images, and Hustler quality images. We went for tasteful (I'm old fashioned that way).

My new artwork arrives and it looks awesome! I take out the backglass and the plastic pieces that hold the offending image won't budge. I email the Netherlands and ask how do you install it? The reply "yew take oot the plastics and yew poot in da picture!". Not very helpful. I call my local truly obsessed pinball buddy (something like 40 pinballs and counting). He tells me I can get new parts in town (90 minutes away). I call the place and they tell me the plastics should just slide right off but sometimes people but two sides tape in there and it can get sticky.

Here comes the mentoring moment. Undaunted and knowing I can buy new plastics, I bring my trusty exactoknife to the task and it starts to give way! I slice this way. I slice that way and I am getting excited that this little backglass that has daunted me and forced me to continue to behold it's crappiness would soon be no more. Then it happened. The voice in my head said "you are not being careful and you might get caught". Pshaw! I said! Ugly backlass must be destroyed!! Of course, four seconds later, I slashed the crap out my thumb. (sigh).

All I could say was, Yes.. voice in my head. I shall listen to you the next time even if I am about to get something that had beguiled me for a while.

I spend so much time mentoring young adults to first teach the voice in their heads to stop being evil, fearful voice and become a helping coach. It is another level to know when the voice is helping. A third level when the voice is inspiring. Don't let crappy backglasses stop you from learning to listen to that voice. (One thumb up).

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Millennials these days can look into their window onto the universe AKA  their computer screen and see people excelling, being"Liked","Friended" whatever else is buttoned for things but they never could do.

If the assembly line led to a certain alienation in the average person because they no longer saw the process of creation from start to finish then the world of Internet has made the barrier to success staggering.

This is just one of the reasons why young people who compare themselves to what they consume as media feel dwarfed.

Thanks Mom!
Another challenge is the over promoting that parents began to do in The 70s and 80s to build up their kids self-esteem. It has actually led to the opposite effect we're met with the crushing reality that they weren't the next Wayne Gretzky or Michael Jackson or Donald Trump (thank God).

Our job as life coach / Mentor for troubled teens and young adults is to help them choose simple goals, acknowledge the challenges to those goals(Themselves) and choose the first indicators of success. This is as opposed to "what will they do 10 years from now that will be super famous".

By having reasonable small goals and having us as mentors helping them learn, non-judgmentally about what worked and what didn't work and how we can modify, millennials begin to slowly as surely learn to believe in themselves.

This works every time, Without fail. This is also something taught to my mentors-in-training in the first degree of our training.

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For finding meaningful work after university in years past, a B.A. was the key to finding a good job. However, in today’s complex job market, your hard-earned degree may not open many doors. In fact, many university graduates find themselves serving coffee at Starbucks or working at other "Mc-jobs" scope just to survive. Finding meaningful work after university graduation can seem nearly impossible. Particularly if your degree is in one of the liberal arts such as psychology, English, history or philosophy. But recent university grads may be well suited to the field of life coaching for teens and young adults. Learning to help young people find their way to success is a powerful way to contribute to your community.

Why Be a Life Coach for Young Adults?

A life coach for young adults helps their clients change undesirable behaviours and get on the right track for success. As a recent university graduate, you are acutely aware of the types of stresses that young people are facing today. As someone who has faced obstacles and overcome them, you are uniquely qualified to help another young person who may have lost his or her way.

Many teens, when faced with obstacles such as learning problems, bullying or social anxiety, choose the wrong way to cope with them.

They may become disengaged from the world, adopting a “why bother?” attitude. They may become dependent on marijuana or obsessed with video games. Some may suffer from low self-esteem or anxiety and lose hope. They may develop anger issues or refuse to talk about their problems with the adults in their lives.

A life coach can often get through to a young person when their parents and others cannot.

Because certified life coaches are trained to help others discover their strengths, they can guide clients toward finding their own strategies for success.

Training Certification

Do your friends often come to you for advice? Do you enjoy helping people solve problems?

You may be a natural! Being a life coach or mentor pays well and the training process can be both exciting and rewarding. The best type of training follows the established medical model: Learn one, do one, teach one.

Ken Rabow, a well-known mentor to teens and young adults who need help getting back on track, runs World Wide Youth Mentoring Inc, as well as Mentors Professional Workshop, a resource for young people and their parents. A regular contributor to The Huffington Post, Rabow also trains people like yourself to become a professional certified life coache for troubled teens and young adults.

Mentors Professional Workshop (MPW)  program offers three separate levels, which range from working with clients facing mild challenges to working with those who may be dealing with mental illness or addictions. You can earn from $35/hour to $100/hour, depending on the level of service required. One of the hallmarks of Ken Rabow’s program is its emphasis on a 12-week hands-on practicum. Combined with intensive training, these practicums help to fully prepare you to become a professional life coach / mentor for young adults.

If you want to make your work count, become an agent of change in the life of a young person. Become a professional life coach for young adults. Click here.

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There have been countless young people who have made great changes for the better in their lives through mentoring. Changes where these young people were responsible for the successful outcome. These successes are now part of who they are and how they see themselves and shall help guide them in whatever endeavors they take on in life.

The goal of this Workbook is to help you become such a mentor to young people. If you embark on this process you will find yourself helping young people to find their personal greatness. I cannot think of a nobler task or one that I consider to be more honorable to be part of.

Most systems of “repair” seem to be focused on the symptoms. They use the deficiencies to define the whole of the person. Statements such as: “I’m ADHD”. Hello, my name is Skeeter and I’m an alcoholic.” “I’m such a (fill in the blank)” ring throughout the land.

To those who spend so much time on their symptoms, I would suggest you think of the following: we amplify what we focus on, in word, thought and action. The more frequently we are defining ourselves by what we lack, the more we allow our inner thoughts to validate our beliefs in our million micro-decisions of the day.

Having said that, let me add: we cannot underestimate the amount of people who are in denial about their personal foibles. I am not suggesting self-delusion as a the road to success. I encourage you to (and by extension those you mentor) to “own” their challenges as well as their strengths, but please do not let yourself be defined by them.

Let me share with you what one can learn through mentoring:

Every young person has the ability to be successful in every way of their lives. That may seem like a bold statement but the truth is, evolutionarily speaking, if you are alive, then you are doing something right. You must also come from a line of people who were able to thrive. The DNA of success is built into you. It just may present itself in a way that doesn’t fit into a standard mold. What may seem like the opposite of success may simply be indicators that you need to look for another way. To find your own personal way to succeed.

The Slacker’s Guide to Success is once such way. It works by building up a person’s belief in themselves in quiet daily tasks that help build character. It is in the small daily tasks one does away from public view that we build up our own faith in ourselves and it is these same small tasks that have been taken away from this generation.

Shining shoes? – Velcro!
Tying your shoe laces – More Velcro!
Cutting the lawn? – no more lawns – robot lawn mowers – or paid help.
Washing the dishes? Dishwashers!
Vacuuming – Roomba!
Getting the mail (what’s mail? Oh! That stuff before texting!)
Spelling (duh … spellcheck!)
Multiplication tables (do calculators have those?)
Walking the dog (did kids ever really walk the dog?)
Homework (isn’t that what tutors are for?)

I won’t go on. It’s too depressing 🙁

What daily tasks will inspire young people to learn self-discipline, build character and belief in oneself?

Since the “old ones” are gone. They need to be replaced with new ones. (Not that new).

1. Self-reflection. 2. Exercise. 3. Creativity 4. Generativity.
Step One will delve into these in great detail.

Although each person has the potential for success and this system has proven to be highly effective, it does not mean that each person who dabbles with it will invest in it or that they will all stay the course and succeed using this system.

It means that each one has in them the seeds for success and the challenge is to find the proper system for that particular person. Often, when someone has used this system and has risen above their addictions and gone back to school and succeeded well (very often for the first time) they will whole-heartedly recommend this system for their close friends in need of guidance (in between video games levels). The chance of this particular system being right for that friend at that particular time is 50/50. The determining factor is; are they ready?

Now, let’s talk about you. What you need to bring to this system and how you can determine when your “client” is ready for your mentoring.

Who knows your child better than you do? They do! They may not know it or share all of it with you but your understanding of your child is based on history. More than likely, theirs is about right now and tomorrow. The past is often the same place where broken toys reside. Rich and meaningful at one time, but now it is mainly of use for stubbing toes and tripping us up.

It is in the future and the now that you must re-learn about your child.

Stay tuned for more!

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